Trash talking has been largely attributed to people talking to others. Did you know that the number one target for trash-talking is personal and internal? Yes, people talk more trash to themselves than anybody else.
Let’s first define trash-talking. According to Merriam Webster Dictionary online trash-talk is “disparaging, taunting, or boastful comments especially between opponents trying to intimidate each other.” The aim of true trash-talk is to boast and intimidate someone. When we engage in friendly or hostile competition we typically brag about our greatness intending to invoke fear, or even insecurity in our opponents. There’s nothing like good trash-talking to make a game or contest more interesting.
What most of us don’t realize is that we engage ourselves in a similar practice daily. First of all do you realize that it is estimated that we think between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day? Second did you realize that one study showed that women use around 21,000 words a day and men 7,000? More recent studies actually show it’s close to being around 16,000 a day for both genders with women being slightly ahead. You can slice this cake one of two ways. Imagine if you thought 50,000 thoughts a day and 10% of your thoughts were negative which would equal 5,000 negative thoughts per day. Or what if you spoke negatively 10% of your 16,000 words a day which would equal 1,600 negative words.
Just by thinking and speaking negatively in the ten percentile range daily would have a great impact on your spirit, mood, self-confidence, self-esteem, and outlook on life. Frankly many people are well above the 10 percentile range daily in thinking and speaking negatively and they are extremely taxed, spiritually, psychologically, and physically, because of thinking and speaking trash to themselves.
When is the last time you insulted yourself because you forgot something or did something wrong? When is the last time you thought or called yourself stupid? When is the last time you thought or said you weren’t special? When is the last time you thought or told yourself you’ll always struggle and have little? When is the last time you thought or said nobody really loves me? When is the last time you thought or said you weren’t worthy of certain things you were trying to attain? When is the last time you thought or said you didn’t like the way you looked? When is the last time you thought or said you wanted to just give up and quit because there’s no use in trying? When is the last time you thought or said nobody really loves me? When is the last time you thought or said nobody really appreciates me? When is the last time you thought or said your family would be better off if you were dead?
What we say to ourselves is generally defined in psychology as self-talk. All mature, human beings who are self-aware both think and talk to themselves. While all people think some are more verbal or verbose than others. What you think and speak determines your reality. Proverbs 23:7a For as he thinketh within himself, so is he… ASV. You are where you are right now because of how you think, which determines what you believe, which determines what you speak, which determines what you do. What have you been thinking and speaking concerning yourself lately?
Next time I’ll discuss the power of your thoughts and how it helps shape your reality.
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