As some of you know I’m an avid sports fan. In watching sports it always intrigues me when athletes start talking trash to each other in the game.
What typically happens with great competitors in a dual of words is they typically take offense to what has been said and channel it into positive energy that produces a positive performance.
Let’s reread the definition of trash-talk: MerriamWebster Dictionary online says trash-talk is “disparaging, taunting, or boastful comments especially between opponents trying to intimidate each other.”
The latter part of the definition strikes me because it says “the disparaging, taunting, or boastful comments are especially between opponents trying to intimidate each other”. Trash-talk should be reserved mainly for opponents. Notice I said mainly because I recognize that sometimes friends talk trash to each other meaning no harm. But in the sense that I am discussing trash-talk, it’s negative, destructive, and has consequences that shouldn’t be used against any loved one or self.
Origins of Trash-Talk
There are many things that can be attributed to people developing a destructive ability to speak negatively to themselves. Most negative self-talk is directly rooted in poor, faulty, low self-esteem, and self-worth. Low self-esteem and poor self-worth can be traced to a myriad of bad experiences that formed spiritual and mental dysfunctions even pathologies within a person.
These dysfunctions can be directly linked to people lacking the proper experiences of love, acceptance, and appreciation. Therefore the opposite of the aforementioned things are hatred, rejection, and abuse. When people are unloved, or feel as such, not accepted, or feel as such, and abused, or feel as such, their growth, and development, occurs abnormally.
Our natural physiology is designed to compensate to help us to survive. I’ve heard of blood being rerouted from blockages in the human body by the body itself in an attempt to keep blood flowing and insure its survival. As it is with the body so it is with the mind. We adapt to survive and therefore will adopt ideas and beliefs to help protect ourselves. For example people who’ve been abandoned or rejected may decide that the best way to protect themselves is to adopt an ideology that “I can’t trust nobody but myself or I don’t need anybody”. They adopt and then adapt to become distrustful and compensate by adopting a philosophy to protect their heart. This example is just a tip of the iceberg.
But you can’t really see yourself through tainted lenses and have a proper view. King David saw what God did: Psalms 139:14 “… I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” You’ve been made by the best to be the best and you’ve got to believe this. Next entry I’ve got treasure for your trash-talking!
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