YOU MATTER!

Dr. A. G. Green
Last night I didn't sleep well. I tossed and turned thinking about so many things in life that I want and need to change for the better. I must admit I'm a very analytical thinker. Despite the fact that I'm known as a man of faith my personality type prefers analysis, critical thinking, and logic. Although I'm not some famous, well known, person, I've been blessed to help quite a few people in my time as a servant-leader. For all the joy I get in helping people sometimes I still ponder, is it worth it and what is my life worth? One painfully obvious fact I learned years ago in helping people is you shouldn't really expect anything in return from them. I know it sounds crazy. You may help save a life, marriage, family, household, even a person's sanity, but in the end don't expect anything in return. You may give thousands of dollars of your own money, donate numerous hours of your life, inspire people to reach higher, even leave your bed in the middle of the night to visit the dying, but in the end don't expect anything in return from people. Don't expect anything because 1) you did it as unto God 2) your motive wasn't to be celebrated it was to simply help someone in need. In the meantime it is possible to help people and they get amnesia. And it is very possible to help people and they bypass you for what they feel is the next best thing or they simply leave you because you're no longer needed.

At some point in time some people-helpers have to realize that your heroic and sacrificial actions could one day be eventually heaped on a pile of trash with yesterdays stale bread, powerless batteries, and chicken scraps. In other words your past contributions no matter how great could lose to a present day attitude that says "I no longer need you." I know many people feel as I do wondering if what they've done to help people is really appreciated or some in present challenges question, what is my life really worth? I must admit I've been deep in contemplation lately evaluating my life, sorting through piles of emotional files, as I deal with mental and physical pain, seeking solutions that would make sense in my present life. Honestly, while I'm not a pity-party type person, lately I have battled my share of negative emotions. It is while I was insulated in my fortress of inner solitude that God sent His voice through a text message. That sounds funny doesn't it? A few days ago amidst my intellectual and emotional workout that found me running in place on a treadmill of thoughts in my fortress of inner solitude I received a text message from one of my closest loved ones in the world. He and I have been joined at the hip for most of our lives and I trust him with my life. Lately I've been very quiet and hadn't spoken to him about these recent things that were on my heart but a few days ago he sent me a text message as we say "out of the blue" and I will quote verbatim a snippet from it. He said "...wanted you to know that you matter." Brien Andrews, thank you! God spoke through you!

Self-confined within my fortress of inner solitude and thinking within a paralytic cycle I received these brief but powerful words "...wanted you to know that you matter." After receiving these words my spirit fluttered, my heart was moved, and my question was answered. I no longer needed to over-analyze the worth of my actions or the worth of myself, nor those of others and neither do you! God determines value and worth. He said we matter and because of this nothing separates us from His love. (Romans 8:35,39)

Don't allow the egregious, insensitive, hurtful, proud, actions of the ungrateful or disloyal to cloud your perspective of yourself. You are not here by accident. Your existence means something. Your voice is needed. Your presence is required on this planet. The talents and gifts that you have are needed by someone in this world. And despite any hell you've been through or any failures or abuse you've endured it doesn't diminish your worth. Whether you're rich, poor, fat, skinny, short, tall, troubled, confused, flawed, educated, uneducated, appreciated, unappreciated, stereotyped, abused, misused, black, white, yellow, red, straight, gay or anything else, you matter! God wants you to know and I want you to know, that you matter!



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LET'S DEAL WITH TEMPTATION

Dr. A. G. Green
Would you want to live in a society where everything goes? If murder, rape, stealing, and pillaging were legal, our world would be in serious trouble. What is it that causes people to fail behaviorally in a society that has good laws and guidelines? What is it that alters the thinking processes of people to stray from right to wrong? Why can't some people do what's right?

The driving force behind mankind's ills is a most certain fixation on fulfilling the desires of his inner rebel. It's the voice of will that's in our head that tells us to run the red light or break the law even when it isn't sensible to do so. It is the faultiness of this inner voice attached to a thinking construct of illicit desires that dooms many to certain failure in their choices.

We Like What We Like
This inner voice represents the vulnerability of our own inappropriate desires. It's thinking that shuns truth and conventional wisdom. Such desires are rooted in the failings of men and can be summed up by one word--temptation. The modern day definition of the word “tempt” is to entice or allure to do something often regarded as unwise, wrong, or immoral. The word "tempted”, used in James 1:14 of the Bible, comes from the Greek word peirazo, which is used predominately in the New Testament when you see the word tempted. It means evil solicitations, provocation, adversity, scrutinized, and enticed.

Cheating Spouses
Temptation is really about what we like. And we like what we like, even if it kills us. For example, marriages are dying because 41% of spouses have admitted to infidelity, either physical or emotional. And 74% of men and 68% of women said they would have an affair if they could get away with it. Many spouses are fighting the temptation to cheat daily and some are losing the war. Over 30% of marriages fail after infidelity. Failed marriages lead to faulty, dysfunctional families.

Or what about the 2012 statistics that state 23.9 million or 9.2% of Americans, 12 or older, were current (within the past month) illicit drug users? Or what about the 15% of Americans who are considered problem alcohol drinkers? How many people do you know who've lost everything because of drugs or alcoholism? Or what about statistics that say two-thirds of all adults in the United States are obese? Did you know over 400,000 people a year die because of health complications that occur because of obesity?

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People are facing real problems with self-control and simply won't say no. Every unchecked weakness is sure to bring a life-altering consequence. Not saying no can destroy you, your family, and everything you love. But the solution is not in weakness, it's in strength. Submitting to our temptations won't solve the problem. Knowing what you face and how to deal with it are powerful allies. If you're like me, losing is not an option. Be encouraged to know that there is a way to escape every temptation. Because our lives depend on the choices we make, we must choose to escape no matter what sacrifices must be made. When we change our thinking, we can change our behavior. Yes, changing our thinking will change our lives. You are where you are in life now because you thought it. 

Solutions for faulty thinking, sexual desires, drug addictions, emotional eating, temptation, and more begin in the mind. I've written a powerful book that addresses the problems temptation brings and it offers great solutions. My book, Just the Way I Like It - Let's Deal With Temptation, written by me, Dr. A. G. Green, will help you master temptation and be victorious in life. The bible declares in 1 Corinthians 10:13c "...but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. This books shows you how to escape and deal with temptation!


What if I told you there are three avenues of temptation? What if I told you temptation has an anatomy? What if I told you that every temptation has a strategy in mind against you? What if I showed you thirteen temptations you have to master? What if I showed you the three sources of all temptation? And what if I gave you nine real keys to victory over temptation? Yes, all of this is in one dynamic book!

Just The Way I Like It is an in-your-face book that is guaranteed to change and equip you to win the battle against temptation. If you're ready to overcome those temptations that have plagued you for years, you'll order this book. I guarantee if you put the principles to work that are in this book, you will defeat temptation and take full control of your life. Now is the time!

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7 Reasons You Shouldn't Cheat On Your Spouse/Part 1

One of the things I have a great passion for in life is marriage. Marriage is a wonderful thing with the right person but preparation and good support are necessary if you want to succeed. Like many people I've had my share of wars and some grueling years of marriage. I've been married now for over twenty one years. But I'm glad to say that today my marriage is on solid footing and I enjoy being with my lifelong spouse.

Despite some advances and new strategies utilized in society and religious circles to help prepare people for marriage, divorce is still around fifty percent. Naturally as a pastor I've married a few people in my day and I've counseled scores of couples before and after marriage. Honestly, because of some of my past experiences with couples which I'll have to share in another entry, I've grown weary of marrying people. Truthfully, I'm seriously considering not performing any more ceremonies. I personally take marriage serious and it breaks my heart if I marry people and they divorce. Although I do understand that in some circumstances divorce is necessary it still pains me to see people fail when you've done all you could do to help them succeed.

This blog entry is about one of the most devastating things you can do to damage or destroy a marriage. The thing I'm referring to is infidelity or cheating. According to ulive.com there are three top reasons why couples divorce: 1) Money 2) Communication 3)Infidelity. While both money and communication may be at the top of the list, it is usually infidelity or cheating that cuts the heart out of a marriage. When the heart is gone love is on life-support and the emotional connection is fragile. At some point in time most everyone who is married has been tempted with the thought of cheating. If you're considering cheating, or you've already cheated and you're contemplating doing it again, please think about what I'm getting ready to share. I've got seven reasons why you shouldn't cheat on your spouse. Today's entry lists my top four reasons. I hope you are challenged and changed. 

1. YOU ARE BREAKING YOUR VOW TO GOD
One of the things that gets lost in our post modern world is not only the sanctity of marriage but the author and creator of it. For the record unlike some people I'm an unapologetic Christian who believes that God/YHWH is the creator of the institution of marriage. (Genesis 2:21-24) But even if you don't believe the way I do you can't ignore the fact that most every young or ancient religion of the world has embraced the institution of marriage. Any ancient cultures that didn't respect it such as the Greeks and Romans had their empires come to ruin. Marriage and family are bedrocks of society. When we make marriage vows we aren't just making them to each other we also make them to God/YHWH. It should be our intent that if we make a vow to God to keep it. As I said earlier there are things that happen in a marriage that can justify a divorce but we must always be conscious that God has a vested interest in marriage. And when you got married you made a vow before God and witnesses to do your best.

2. YOU ARE BREAKING THE MARRIAGE COVENANT
Merriam Webster says a covenant is "a usually formal, solemn, and binding agreement." Many people say that marriage is like a contract but really marriage is a covenant. Not only is it a binding agreement it is also solemn and sacred. Just as God has made covenants with mankind throughout the bible and honored them. When men and women marry they make a covenant with each other. Most marriage covenant vows are something like this: 

(His/Her) do you take this (woman/man) to be your wedded (wife/husband?) And do you earnestly promise, before God and these witnesses, that you will love (her/him), comfort (her/him), honor and cherish (her/him) in sickness and health; and that, forsaking all others for (her/him) alone, you will perform unto (her/him) all the respect that a (husband/wife) owes to (his/her) (wife/husband), until God, by death, shall separate you?

(Him/Her) "I will"

When you cheat you're a covenant breaker who has broken a solemn oath that you took before the God you believe in and the people you love. It's an agreement that says you will honor and cherish the one you love no matter how bad the situation may get. When you have sex with someone else other than your spouse you've broken the covenant and jeopardized the future of your marriage.

3. YOU ARE BETRAYING YOUR SPOUSE
Marriage is about the sharing and blending of individual selves to become one. Becoming one doesn't mean you lose your own identity it simply means your identity is now fused with the identity of another. And as Genesis 2:24c states "...they shall be one flesh." Upon becoming joined in matrimony you no longer only think of yourself, you think of your spouse. It is no longer "I" it is "we". It is "us". Because it is "we" and "us", you plan and live life as a team. You share money with them. You share your hopes, dreams, even fears, with them. You share living space with them. You share your body with them. You share your heart and spirit with them. You elect to become one in spirit, soul, and body. 

Marriage dips very deeply beyond the superficial veil of flesh. Your spirit, thinking, emotions, and so much more, are connected in marriage and they become more interconnected through intercourse. Intercourse should not just be limited in definition to physical and sexual acts. Intercourse can occur emotionally and spiritually. Most people have emotional intercourse which is called an "emotional affair" long before they engage in sexual intercourse. People typically become intimate emotionally before they consummate their relationship physically.

Marriage is a union of the spiritual, emotional, and physical. Sex not only consummates marriage through the joining of our intimate sexual body parts, it also fuses or melds your spirit and soul together. You merge and become one with whoever you have intercourse with. (1 Corinthians 6:16) To give your spirit to another not in covenant with you is "marriage treason". To give your heart and emotions to another not in covenant with you, is "marriage treason". To share your personal, sexual organs, and the pleasure that comes with using them with another who is not in covenant with you, is "marriage treason". We don't wed to give our spirit, soul, and bodies to others that we aren't in covenant with. We wed to share ourselves even the most personal, intimate parts, with the "one" we love. When you take personal, intimate intercourse, that should remain reserved for two married people, and share it with a third party, that is the ultimate betrayal.

4. YOU ARE DAMAGING THE SPIRIT AND HEART OF YOUR SPOUSE
As it relates to the expression of love through sensuality and sexuality this kind of intimacy should only be reserved for the one you're married to. When you've committed your whole self in marriage to a person you trust, that trust should be honored, and respected. As I mentioned in reason number three, intercourse between lovers isn't just limited to the sexual dimension it also encompasses the spiritual and emotional realm. Therefore, when you cheat and take the intimacy of intercourse that should be reserved for two people and share it with a third party, that is the ultimate betrayal. 

When a man or woman that has reserved their love, spirit, heart, mind, will, emotions, body, money, time, possessions, and total self for one person, discovers that they've been cheated on, it traumatizes them. It wounds their spirit and causes them to doubt God and themselves. Some even question why would God allow this to happen to them. Spouses who've been the victim of infidelity many times don't feel like they are good enough or that something is lacking in them. Cheating shatters their self-esteem, self-image, and self-worth. There is nothing like loving somebody with everything and then through infidelity realize they don't love you, like you love them.

Then there is the torture that comes along with reliving some of your tender intimate moments with your spouse in your mind, only to be rudely interrupted by thoughts of that pleasure being shared with someone else. It is a staggering, hideous, cataclysmic reality, when you realize that someone else has enjoyed the spirit, heart, mind, and body, of your beloved. Like a broken CD, the mind continuously replays imagined images of your beloved, being sexually intimate with someone else. These vexing, hurtful images are replayed often in the mind of the wounded spouse for years. As a result of being betrayed many men and women go into deep depression or turn to drugs, alcohol, and even revenge sex with others, to medicate the pain they feel. The pain of betrayal literally changes people. I've counseled many people down through the years and infidelity always creates some of the deepest wounds I've ever seen. It cuts the heart of the betrayed and damages them spiritual and emotionally. Sometimes it takes a miracle for them to love and trust again.

Well, I've run out of time so I'll finish the list in my next entry.  I hope that in the meantime you've considered the first four reasons and will share them with someone else. If you're struggling in your marriage and feel yourself moving toward infidelity, get help. Find a counselor, clergy, family, or friend you can trust, and talk to them. I know you may be tempted, hurting or angry, but understand, that once you cheat you'll be releasing a cycle of pain and the one you betray may never be the same. If you like my blog please leave a comment, follow me on Facebook, and tell others.


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LESSONS FROM: My Boxer Briefs


As I was going about my routine of getting ready for the day I found myself admiring an old friend. This old friend has been with me for years and accompanied me in all kinds of situations. I'm sorry to say that despite all the things I've shared with my friend I didn't really take notice of him until he was draped across a bar this morning in my bathroom.  My friend, a faithful pair of Boxer briefs, was staring back at me silently, baring all the marks of a time tested warrior. As I examined this old friend I noticed his burgundy color had faded and the cloth that covered his internal frame was torn. Like injured human skin can at times be peeled back and reveal white bone so was the burgundy skin of my briefs rolled back revealing a white waist band.


As I admired my durable briefs, and observed the revelation of the white waistband peeking through, I was immediately exposed to the reason these briefs could fulfill its purpose. No matter how good the briefs looked on the outside they could only be held in place on the inside by a thin layer of white elastic waistband that existed anonymously beneath a shroud of fabric. Even though the fabric was scarred the waistband continued to do what it was designed to do. One moment of transparency from my briefs revealed to me what was holding them in place around my waist. Isn't it strange how sometimes we don't see what's covering and holding us up? When things seem to be going as planned it's easy to forget who or what is keeping us covered and protected. It's amazing how sometimes we don't appreciate something until it's about to leave or it's gone. We really appreciate running water after the water is cut off. We really appreciate our car after its broken down or unrepairable. At times we don't appreciate family until things get tough or a loved one gets sick, or dies. 

I believe that life at times must bring hardships for us to really appreciate what we have. A famous poet once said "no man is an island." No matter what you've accomplished you'll always need someone to cover and hold you up.  Don't wait until you lose everything before you see who's holding you up. Many people reading this today have overlooked family, friends, and even God, as vibrant sources that are covering and holding them up.  It's painfully obvious that soon I must part ways with those faithful Boxer briefs but the time I have left with them will be meaningful. Don't let precious time slip away from your life without appreciating God, family, friends, and other significant things that have played a part through the years in helping to cover and hold you up. It's never too late to say thanks. It's never too late to honor those who bare the scars of life but still find a way to love, support, cover, and hold you up. These are a few lessons I learned from my Boxer briefs... If you like my blog please leave a comment, follow me on Facebook, and tell others.


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DON'T PRESS REWIND

A few minutes before writing this piece I opened my top drawer to retrieve some information from my old phone. As I held the phone in my hand and admired it's beauty I was struck with renewed admiration for it. The phone I'm referring to was my first real smart phone, the first generation IPhone. Several years ago while I was out of town on business my wife purchased this phone for me and surprised me with it when I returned. Needless to say I was shocked, a little concerned (she spent a nice chunk of change) but pleasantly surprised. 

My Old IPhone
During the time when this phone was released it was the apex of mobile communication.  It had features and an intuitiveness that was never seen before on the mass market. I was smitten by the black screen and beautiful chrome back. I immediately dove head first into trying to learn about its many features, functions, and amenities.  I quickly became acquainted with it and I grew to desire it over any phone on the market.

Well as time passed and we moved forward into different financial seasons of life I had to switch to an inferior phone which caused me to miss my IPhone greatly. Despite the fact that Apple created more advanced phones and companies such as Samsung, Google, and others created phones that were just as good I still clung to that old IPhone in my drawer. Then one day last year my son, who I helped get his first IPhone years ago, came into my room and took my old IPhone. 

When AG 2 returned my IPhone was activated and working. Needless to say I was back in business, joy returned to my techno-driven heart, and I was ready to take on the world. I double checked my contact list, added some email accounts, started surfing the net, and indulged in other wonderful things I couldn't do on my not-so-smart phone. But it didn't take me long to realize that somethings had changed since I first started using this old Iphone fresh out of the box. Yes, you guessed right, it was slow, literally with just 2G speed. Because it was old some of the apps wouldn't work right and I couldn't upgrade to a newer version of the app because my phone was just plain old. I also noticed the touch sensors were starting to fail, I had to tap it hard at times just to get it to respond. And let's not even talk about how often it froze...geez! Everybody around me had new updated phones that could do incredible stuff but mine could barely get out of the starter's gate. 

I soon realized that the IPhone of my dreams was now just an old dinosaur still trying to roam in the twenty first century. Yes-Yes, I was really frustrated and ready for something newer. As fate would have it my son entered the room again during the latter part of 2013.  This time when he entered the room (out of pity) he gave me his old Iphone 3GS because he upgraded to a newer version. Can you say it with me, Hallelujah-H a l l e l u j a h!!! Oh yeah, I was out of the old and into something newer. When I turned the screen on everything was bright and shiny. The phone was sleeker, faster, more intuitive, loaded with gadgets, and more. I was happy to at least be able to enjoy some of the latest technology. 

This morning as I revisited my old IPhone I was amazed at how good it looked and how smooth it ran and nostalgia began to kick in as I reminisced about the past.  While I was in this glorious cloud something within reminded me of what I felt last year and I immediately snapped back to reality. As nice and lovely as my old phone looked I didn't need to go back to it. There was a reason why I was using a newer phone. There are times that looking back can cripple you. Philippians 3:13b says "...forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before." When looking back, old relationships can look good, old habits can look good, old mindsets can look good, old sins can look good, old money can look good, the good ole times can look good, but there is a reason why you gave up all those things. Like my phone some of your stuff was too slow, not responsive to touch, frozen, and plain old, and in need of being replaced. 

I want to encourage you to embrace your present and expect a great future. It's time you started reaching for the future. The longer you live in the past the longer it will take you to move forward into the future! If it didn't work then it won't work now. Embrace a 4G life and DON'T PRESS REWIND!

P.S. I'm about to kick off some life changing training/coaching which will empower people to overcome their struggles and attain success in life. I'll begin by doing a powerful webinar on temptations and helping people to master their weaknesses. More information will be released soon. If you have an interest in joining this exclusive group and receiving personal coaching from me, CLICK the link below, and sign up. Trust me it's going to be great!!! CLICK >>> http://bit.ly/1izTBlL


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